14 - 18 years

Here come the Terrible Teens. Were you the perfect teenage son? How much of what you did were your parents aware? Remember? You didn’t like your parent’s music, clothes, politics or hairstyles. You spoke a different language. You wanted to express your individuality. You wanted to be what we called cool. You wanted to be accepted by your group. You wanted to spend minimal time at home. Getting it? 

Today there is even more competition for your teenager’s attention. Social media, TV, cell phones, computer games. The Internet connects them with the world. Cell phones bring them friends, photos, email and instant messages. The world is available instantly. Teenagers already know a lot more about a lot more things than you do. So, why do they need you anymore? It’s your job to show them. They still have a lot to learn. So do you.

Family meals. Yes, it’s nearly impossible to juggle everyone’s schedule to eat together, but it’s one of the most important times for communication and bonding. Eat together. Talk. Ask questions. 

Show affection. Just because they’re grown up, they still need a hug, kiss, or kind pat. It’s this kind of unspoken communication that keeps everyone together. Monkeys groom each other for the same reasons. Be monkey-like. 

Help make sure they get enough sleep. We know that teenagers need more sleep than the rest of us. Most schools start too early. Help them get to bed early enough. Easier said than done.

Stay in touch with their friends. They are the mirrors of your teen . . .